Re: DCHS etiquette

Mellowguy, This " strawman " thing you have implied I used has nothing to do with my thinking in writting any of my responses to this topic you have brought up. Regarding your 8-31 private message to me, I was at Burning Man, no internet access in Black Rock City ( maybe if your lucky at Center Camp ). The first thing I've seen of this private message is your inclusion of it in your most recent post here. You write regarding " bothersome behavior " that there was " virtually complete silence from the responses which, unfortunately, seemed to lend tacit support to the problem " in reference to any condemnation of this behavior. Once again I'll ask you to show me where any comments imply support for un-courteous behavior. In fact, several responses including mine in at least a couple of cases express specifically dis-approval of such behavior. I'm not going to take the time to go back and retreive all the examples of this.

What I have gleaned ( as I think most the rest of the viewers have also from your comments ) is that #1 that you think single men should behave with decent behavior when around naked couples or single women. No one here has a problem with that, which you just don't seem to get. And #2 I also read your comments to mean that if a couple is in a hotpool and is wishful for private romantic time and implies this to a single guy who is there too, while there are other un-occupied hotpools, that your idea of " common courtesy " says that the single guy should move on to the other hotpools so the couple can enjoy their " private time " in the original hotpool.

So what, are you now saying that in the situation I presented in the preceeding paragraph, if the single guy is a well behaved chap, its OK by you if he stays with the romantically inclined couple, even if they give hints that they would like " time alone " in that hotpool? And another thing is just who is going to be the judge and jury of the supposed ill behavior ( using their own personal take of what constitutes this behavior ), and by what authority do you think you could legally compell anyone to stop looking this way or that, or spend what ever amount of time in this place or another in such a public place like DCHS. All you can reasonably do is try and convince the supposed offending party that their behavior is un-courteous and should stop. I personally wouldn't get in a physical confrontation over something like that, unless things were getting downright threatening. You really think any type of law enforcement agency is going to do anything about people looking at other people, or spending to much time in some specific location at DCHS?

Look, the good people here at the forum and those who visit DCHS already know a certain amount of jerks go there. Sometimes they push things to the point where they get talked to, and on occasion they might even receive some more stringent action from someone who gets especially pissed. Many of the DCHS visitors already address these situations all the time in whatever way seems most reasonable. This thing you are talking about is not new to us. Just don't expect me, while having my soak in the Womb, to have to move off to another hotpool just because some couple ( straight, gay, whatever ) implies somehow to me that they would like the whole hotpool to themselves for their personal romantic pleasures. That, would not be courteous of them to expect, or reasonable either.

It doesn't have to be so complicated Mellowguy. Just tell the idiots to back off and in most cases they will. And if they don't stop you can argue with them about it trying to convince them to cease their negative behavior, physically fight over it ( not recommended by me ), or leave the vicinity. However, if they get really threatening, you do what you have to do to reasonably protect yourself and your loved ones.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 09/07/2010 10:42PM by Wizard.