Re: DCHS etiquette

Yes, Wizard, I do indeed, absolutely, believe that it would be courteous to leave a couple a few minutes if you have already soaked in the spot for hours. I am not saying you (or anyone) has to do that, I am just saying it would be considerate and courteous to do so.

And as for me personally, yes, I would leave them alone even if I had been in the pool for less than a few hours. But perhaps I am just overly courteous; I do not think a person should be expected to leave a pool (or other area of DCHS) to give a couple (or anyone else) a few minutes of alone-time unless he/she has been there for at least a few hours already.

It is all a matter of lengths of time. That is the crucial distinction I have been talking about since my first three sentences of this thread. A single guy hangs in the presence of a couple at a unique spot at DCHS for hours. The couple indicates they would like just a few moments during their trip to DCHS where they can experience being in a pool or other unique part of DCHS and not be in the vision of others. And I am speaking only of times when DCHS area is not very crowded. Under such time specifics, I do think it would be courteous for the single guy to leave the couple alone for a couple of minutes. Or vice versa!

We all have a right at DCHS not to extend such courtesy to anyone. But that does not change the fact that it would be courteous to do so.

And again, this does not apply to women or couples who want to socialize, or have no desire for a few minutes outside the gaze of others at DCHS. But for those who do, I have no problem giving them that little bit of time when they are outside the vision of others. To me, that would be basic courtesy.

If we disagree about whether this would be courteous, that's okay. But, as I said from the very beginning, to the degree courtesy is rooted in the Golden Rule, it sure seems to me that leaving a couple a few minutes of alone-time, after enjoying the spot myself for hours, is doing for them as I would have them do for me.



Edited 3 time(s). Last edit at 09/08/2010 06:11PM by mellowguy.