Re: DCHS etiquette

As I mentioned in my second post here on this topic, I was with a girlfriend at DCHS one time about 7-8 years ago and there was only one other person in the area with us, a single guy. She and I got into the Arizona pool and he came over and got in with us. His stares made her too uncomfortable to stay nude, and he would not take our hints to stop looking at her, so she put her bathing suit on. Our multiple hints that he was bothering us had zero effect. So we got up and went into the Womb. My girlfriend took her bathing suit off again. In a couple of minutes, he followed us in there, even though he could have stayed in the Arizona pool or got into one of the other pools. We were the only three people in the pools area during those hours.

So are the people who have posted responses so far saying that guys like that, though this forum, should not be sent even the softest, most suger-coated message that they might give the couple a little space? In fact, the responses posted so far all seem to say, too bad for the couple, the guy should not be expected to show an ounce of courtesy whatsoever. Under that view, Rule No. 1 for DCHS published by the Naturist Society has been shredded.

Unfortunately, the experience my girlfriend and I had with the single guy was not overblown. She and I had never returned to DCHS again after that, although we had been there 3-4 times before. The guy' offensiveness, and pursuit of us, left a bad taste in our mouths about the place, and it just did not seem to be worth it to go again to DCHS, if we could not get the solitude and privacy in the pools which we used to so much love there. Prior to returning to DCHS with a new female friend this year, I asked in a post whether I should expect that kind of behavior from single guys now, as a prevailing norm. During my other multiple trips there in the 80's and early 90's it was definitely not the prevailing norm, and I never encountered that kind of rudeness or offensiveness (except for one even worse time when DCHS was fairly crowded and a strange guy touched a female friend of ours under the water -- I understand that no one in this forum would defend that). In terms of sheer etiquette, though, what I am hearing is that yes, single guys' "right" to not leave couples alone is now the prevailing norm. What is more, that norm has now been staunchly defended in this forum.

No wonder the proportion of textiles to nudes at DCHS has increased so dramatically, and no wonder the proportion of nude women to men at DCHS is also small. Single guys, and their unrestrained insensitivity, is surely one of the central reasons there are not substantially more nude females at DCHS than there are.

I've said my peace, though, and will leave this topic alone. The responses so far, however, have been very, very interesting.



Edited 5 time(s). Last edit at 08/26/2010 09:55AM by mellowguy.